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 01/29/2004 04:21 AM
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jackrussell
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Hi,
This is the first time i have come across this website and am relieved to know that i am not alone. I hope that someone out there can help me, give me some possible solutions or even a ray of hope as I am so desperate for a solution. My story goes like this...

I have always had very fine hair and found i could do nothing at all with what i had other than have it in a straight bob. For years people used to say why dont you grow your hair, i pretended i never wanted to but deep down i so wanted long hair. I went to hairdresser after hairdresser for a solution or a new style...but they all said the same, to just stick with a short bob. I finally went to a hairdresser who looked at my hair in disgust and told me she didnt know what she could do with it and suggested i go for hair extensions. So i did. The salon i went to told me my hair would not be damaged and that even though my own hair was fine and thin that it would be ok to go ahead. Once i had the extensions i felt great. Better than i had ever felt in my life, i was so happy. Then gradually i noticed that as the extensions were falling out they were pulling my own hair out. I went back to the salon about 6 times to have them re done and the one time all of the extensions were taken out completely i was devastated at how much of my own hair i had lost. My hairdresser brushed it aside and told me i was being paranoid because i was used to so much more hair. I knew i wasnt. But I could not imagine having hair so thin and lank again so i continued to have the extensions put in again and again.

After several months i was starting to get depressed knowing that one day i was going to have to take the extensions out and face the reality that i had very little hair left. I saw 2 specialists to see if there was anything they could do but both appointments were pointless and cost me significantly. I started getting so depressed and insecure about myself that my relationship with my boyfriend was affected, i didnt want to go out with friends and at a time when i was having to find a new job i lost all confidence in myself to be able to get one. Things got so bad that the only solution i could think of was to go away for a while and take the extensions out somewhere by myself and see how i looked and felt without an audience. This is what i have done. Now I am in a different country from where i live and today have taken the extensions out altogether. I am absolutley devastated and really dont know what to do. There is no way that i could wear a wig and id rather be dead than live with how my hair is now. So i just wondered if there was anyone out there who has been through something similar and knows of any treatments, procedures. etc.

I really am desperate. My boyfrined came away with me for a few weeks, although he didnt know the real reason i wanted to come away. Anyway today we have split up as he cant understand why i am so insecure and have such bad mood swings. He has now gone home. I could never tell him, i know he wouldnt understand. In a way i wanted him to leave me so i wouldnt have to explain, although i will miss him terribly. I also have friend who are wanting to come and visit me and i dont know how to put them off because i dont want to see anybody i know whilst my hair is like this. I just dont want this to affect my life anymore than it has already and hope someone can help.

Any help or advise would be very much appreciated.

Thanks for reading and good luck to everyone who is suffering.

 01/29/2004 06:38 AM
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JackRussell,

I'm sorry to hear about your situation, though I am glad that you had a period of great happiness with the extensions in. Are you using any products/treatments for hair loss? You may not have actual hair loss, but perhaps some of those typical treatments can help you regrow the hair that was pulled out by the extensions faster.

As for your situation overall, you probably don't want to hear this, but I'll tell you anyway because I feel strongly about it. I think you should call your bf and tell him what's going on with your life. You have nothing to lose, as you've already broken up, but you have everything to gain. He may be much more understanding than you think. Regardless of whether you two get back together, you will probably feel 100% better simply for having talked about the problem with someone else. You weren't cheating on the guy, but you did keep a big secret from him, since your hair is affecting your life so much and he has no idea. You should feel better having lifted that burden of keeping the secret.

As for regrowing your hair, I'm sure you will. Your hair was thin, but it was still growing, and that's a very good thing. My advice is that you take control of the situation as much as possible by owning your "recovery". Pay close attention to your diet and consume lots of protein. Take a vitamin/mineral supplement. Make sure you are getting enough iron. Take Evening Primrose Oil, or other essential fatty oils, as these can improve the quality of your hair, and that is half the battle. Make sure you exercise regularly. Research and consider Rogaine - it may work. By the simple act of taking control of your recovery, and embarking on a strict regimine, you will feel less hopeless about your situation -- I guarantee it.

Tell me more about your hair. Has it always been thin, your entire life? Prior to the extensions, were you losing hair, was it getting thinner? There are women who have made awesome improvements -- have gone from very little hair to normal volume again, so take heart.

Kball
p.s. This is not a knock on hairstylists, but there will be idiotic ones out there and unfortunately we all run across them. Whoever looked at your hair "in disgust" was one of the lemons. Try to forget about them. What kind of extensions did you get?
 01/29/2004 04:40 PM
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jackrussell
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Thanks for the advice, i will take note and your right i have got to stay strong and fight all i can to get my hair back how i want it. In answer to your questions i had the extensions which they bond with a glue. The glue is so strong that if you happen to pull an extension out the chances are it will pull your own out. And they cause the hair to get mattered at the roots which then has to be untangled and again pulls out alot of your own hair. My hair was getting thinner even before i had extensions I'd say i noticed my hair loss probably 2 -3 years before i had the extensions put in, but it was very gradual. The worrying thing now is my sister recently has started noticing her hair falling out too, i just hope to god that she doesnt jhave the same issue as me...although her hair is much thicker anyway so could withstand more loss than mine.

Im not sure what to do about my boyfriend, i have got to think about that one. If he laughed or made fun i would be devasted or if we told anyone i know back home i would be gutted, so i might just leave things the way they are. It would be a relief to tell him, but at the moment i just want to think about me and how i can get through this, without worrying what he is thinking of me.

You mentioned Rogaine..i have been using a product called Nioxin which burns your head like hell, but is supposed to increase circulation and speed up hair growth. Ive also taken all the supplements under the sun...vitamins, minerals, evening primrose oil, cod liver oil etc. Its difficult to though if the Nioxin or the supplements had any effect as I have had the extensions in at the time and taking them all out has wrecked any progress it may have made.

I really apreciate your advise though, it is so nice to be able to talk about this to people who understand exactly how it feels. I am determined after hearing your advice that this is not going to take over my whole life. I know i will have bad days and days when i look in the mirror and just cry like this morning but no-one has died and there's a chance i can get back the hair i had, however hard it may be to wait.

Thanks so much.

PS what is your hair issue?
 02/01/2004 11:36 AM
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Hi Jackrussell,

Sorry for the delay - hope you see this. I know it's a risk to tell your boyfriend, but I'll bet you (even without knowing him) that he'll be understanding and sensitive. I think that people with hairloss get into a warped state of mind and that other people are generally a lot more supportive and sympathetic than we think. Also, as I said, I think the relief you'll feel upon telling someone will make it all worthwhile.

As for the Nioxin question, yes, I've used the shampoo/conditioner/scalp treatment before. I'm ambivalent on it, myself. This is not a hairloss drug - it's just a product which some people think helps the situation. They certainly may be right, but I used it for a long time, and while it was fine as a shampoo/conditioner/whatnot, I concluded that it was a lot of money to pay for something that wasn't really helping much. Rogaine is a drug (topically applied) and it does have a much clearer track record. That's not to say it would be right for you, but I think it's worth researching.

By the way, I wonder if you'd consider getting a different type of extensions -- perhaps something more gentle on your hair. I have had Great Lengths extensions because I'm not patient enough to grow my hair out, and they are awesome. I just got my most recent set removed on Friday, and I haven't lost any hair because of them. Just a thought. I'll warn you though: they are expensive. I won't be getting them again anytime soon, because I've satisfied my urge to have long hair for the time being.

Hairloss help is a great site, and I recommend that you spend some time reading the posts (old and new). However, you may also be interested in visiting another site: heralopecia.com. A friend of mine started this site and it's great. You should go there to check out the discussions about Rogaine, Propecia, and extensions, to name a few topics.

Kball
 02/01/2004 12:17 PM
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there are millions of people losing their hair, and affects everyone differently, i think women generally are more devasted, as it doesn't happen as often as in men. Growing up i never realized how painfully hairloss could be. Somehow on the men's side people just shave it off, but alot are probably secrety disappointed. Who knew no one really vocally says yeah hairloss is devsasting. You talk to people and there like, yeah it's just hair. "If there is one thing i noticed is that peoplle don't know what your going through unless they are going through it themselves.

My hairloss is not that bad, but see i just know that it will get worse. I haven't cried yet, probalby won't for a while, but i am worried about hte future and how hairloss will affect me ( i am guy by the way, but i feel for you) as i believe hairloss is one hte greatest injustices. And konw this your not alone.

I think the first thing you should is to see if your hairloss fits the LUDwig pattern for female hairloss, some women experience balding like men. Go to a good hair transplant surgeon in you area, don't get talk to getting a hairtranplant, just get information. like will your hair strengthen and get back to were it was before the hair extension, perhaps it is female pattern baldness. Just get information, look at your family history, if no female pattern baldness, it could be a blood chemistry thing, like throid problems and so on or a medicine your taking.
Do some research and it should help you in the long run. Good luck
 02/27/2004 09:07 AM
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I just read this and had to pop in for a bit.

I know you said that a wig is not an option. I'm also losing my hair and am not to the point of needing to hide it yet, but that day may come.

I've been researching all my options and was really suprised to find out how natural some hair peices or wigs can look. While not a better solution than having my own hair, I feel positive that this is the route I will go when the time comes. Not happy but I can take comfort that with some effort to find the right one, nobody but me and those I choose to tell need to know.

Maybe this still isn't something for you but it's may be at least a temporary solution for while you recover from your extension ordeal.

This would give the hair that was pulled out time to grow back without adding more stress like styling, etc.

Before you make up your mind please take a look at this group.

http://groups.msn.com/WigSupport/

This is a wonderful group of women. They are all ages, races etc. And many of them have posted pics of themselves in thier wigs, toppers etc.
There are a lot of them that you would not know to look at them that they could be possibly wearing something other than their own hair.

Even if you decide that this isn't a route for you. They are still wonderfuly supportive and just reading their stories has helped me to cope with something that I didn't think I could possibly ever cope with.

Good luck to you!

- A girl

PS. It may also be worth while to get some tests done. There are treatable causes for hairloss (this is assuming that there may be a cause other than the extension ordeal) Getting things like your thyroid, hormones, insuline, and ferratin tested may reveal a treatable cause.

 03/18/2004 06:35 PM
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please call your boyfriend. i had a girlfriend who was depressed and losing her hair. i think it caused our breakup. i cared soooooo much about her and would have stuck with her through anything. your not risking anything by confiding in him. chances are he has an inkling as to what's up. it is better to go through someting with someone than being alone. we're not all jerk off's
 06/21/2004 09:59 PM
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i feel for you. i was in the same position as u are 6 mos ago. i use to pray for a miracle . guess what!! i experienced this miracle. i first went to hcm and i got a hair piece, even though it looked like a wig, i wasn't naked anymore, i wasn't counting the number of hair in my comb. now, thanks to this site i discovered toplace and read a lot until i made a decision to quite hcm and to order from toplace. my husband told me today it looks just like my hair!!! and that was great. if you have any further question maybe u can email me. i'll be happy to answer any of your question
 02/13/2014 01:43 PM
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Hi there

I suffered a ton from hair extension damage. I feel your pain. I really do. I'm doing some research into it and wondering if you're still suffering from the damage. Perhaps I could help you/ we could share experiences.
I'm working with a lawyer to sue the company too!

I hope you're better. If you're not, please feel free to be in touch!
 09/08/2014 02:21 PM
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Hi tmentz! I just joined this forum today because I recently got my extensions out (Saturday) and could NOT believe the damage I suffered from them. I had thin hair but nothing crazy. However when she took the extensions out I don't know if it was the alcohol she used or the pulling but literally half my hair came out with it.
So I have been freaked out, understandable and having to wear my hair up in a clip constantly. I go to my hair dresser on Wednesday to see if she can do anything with it. I've got my evening primrose oil, my biotin, and skin hair and nails vitamins. My husband told me to drink 2 glasses of milk a day and even look in to some healthy oils, to take orally, not in a vitamin form.
Anyway, I guess what I'm wondering is how you are doing now? Has your hair healed much since February? I know it's just hair and it WILL grow back, it's the waiting that is going to kill me. And what makes me so mad is 3 months of beauty has damaged me for probably a year or more!! Ugh!
 09/25/2014 05:55 PM
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Hair extensions is not a good option if your hair is already thin, weak or you are experiencing some type of alopecia. It is probably better to wear a wig or half wig then to add tension and stress to already weak hair follicles.

My hair is very weak and I can't do professionally installed hair extension in any form (tension clips or glue). You can always buy the hair extension yourself and just attach them to your own hair with mini bobby pins instead of using the clips which add unnecessary tension. The bobby pins are easy to use and are less stress on your hair; only add small pieces so you are not weighting your hair down with the weight of the extensions. (Use 100% human hair instead of synthetic, since synthetic hair tends to weight more). It's better for you to learn how to apply your own safe technique then to let hair dressers do it because they don't know the health of your hair and they will probably cause more damage (as you ladies have already testify too)

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 03/09/2015 03:38 AM
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I am really sorry to hear your story. That is the same story a lot of my clients share with me. (I am a hair replacement specialist). I am now exploring lots of natural hair replacement techniques in conjunction with lace wigs because it allows my clients hair to rest without interfering with their personal life. They also allow you more confidence on your re growing journey. We are currently experimenting with some natural hair growing options I suggest that you avoid extensions at any cost, supplement, and get a care regimen down. Most of my clients have regrown hair using these guidelines. I wish anyone who is experiencing this the best! I have regrown all of my hair except for a few small areas but taking a different approach these days and seeing results. Best Wishes!

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 07/29/2015 05:08 PM
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Hi JackRussel,
I'm to learn about your circumstance, however I am happy that you had a time of awesome bliss with the expansions in. Is it accurate to say that you are utilizing any items/medicines for male pattern baldness? You might not have real male pattern baldness, but rather maybe some of those commonplace medicines can help you regrow the hair that was hauled out by the augmentations quicker.

With respect to your circumstance general, you most likely would prefer not to hear this, yet I'll let you know in any case on the grounds that I feel emphatically about it. I think you ought to call your bf and let him know what's going ahead with your life. You don't have anything to lose, as you've officially separated, however you have everything to pick up. He may be a great deal more understanding than you might suspect. Notwithstanding whether both of you get back together, you will presumably feel 100% better basically for having discussed the issue with another person. You weren't undermining the gentleman, yet you did keep a major mystery from him, since your hair is influencing your life so much and he has no clue. You ought to feel better having lifted that weight of keeping the mystery.

With respect to regrowing your hair, I'm certain you will. Your hair was slender, however it was all the while developing, and that is something to be thankful for. My recommendation is that you take control of the circumstance however much as could be expected by owning your "recuperation". Give careful consideration to your eating routine and devour heaps of protein. Take a vitamin/mineral supplement. Verify you are sufficiently getting iron. Take Evening Primrose Oil, or other key greasy oils, as these can enhance the nature of your hair, and that is a large portion of the fight. Verify you practice frequently. Investigate and consider Rogaine - it may work. By the basic demonstration of taking control of your recuperation, and leaving on a strict regimine, you will feel less sad about your circumstance - I promise it.

Let me know all the more about your hair. Has it generally been slim, your whole life? Preceding the expansions, would you say you were losing hair, would it say it was getting more slender? There are ladies who have made magnificent upgrades - have gone from almost no hair to ordinary volume once more, so take heart don't lose your hope.

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Sorry to hear about you. Take any natural treatment. Hope you will get better soon.
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